by M Ahmad
Mother’s Day is celebrated annually to appreciate and honour mothers who bring love, nurturing, and security to the lives of children.
Once a woman is a mother, she is a mother for life. Every year, Mother’s Day is celebrated to appreciate mothers, who play an immensely important role in one’s life. This special day is celebrated every year on the second Sunday of
May. This year it is celebrated on May 9, 2021.
Mothers are selfless, shower unconditional love on their children, and sacrifice all their needs for their families. Starting from feeding us to teaching us manners, our mothers do it all. On this day, people express their love, respect, honour, and gratitude for their mothers. So while this Mother’s Day will also be spent amid lockdown, let us make it special for her in whichever way we can! All mothers want the best for their children, and every mother faces unique challenges and joys when it comes to raising them.
For mothers of children with disabilities, whether a child is born with a disability or it is a result of an illness or accident, motherhood often involves reframing expectations, learning how to advocate and care for their child, and prioritizing selfcare so they can be healthy and present for their child’s unique needs.
Motherhood looks and feels differently for mothers of children with disabilities. They also often face judgment and lack of understanding from others, embracing the reality that their child looks or acts differently than other kids, and the challenge of finding and accessing resources that empower the whole family to have the highest quality of life possible.
It’s one of the hardest jobs in the world. For those looking after a disabled child, care is a gruelling 24/7 reality. Yet they don’t want sainthood, just a secure future for their child. “A mother is a mother, irrespective of what kids are,” She never describe the feelings and emotions she experienced with the disabled child's birth yet abrupt disturbance strikes their emotional balance. Having a disabled child brings great suffering, but a mother never feels unhappy, nor show feelings of disbelief and hopelessness. Despite experiencing a difficult situation, she wishes to continue being the mother of a disabled child. She perceives herself as needing to live through a period of grief to be able to overcome the loss of the ideal infant and, by doing so, accept the disabled child.
It is believed the modern Mother’s Day celebration first began in the US when a woman by the name of Anna Jarvis wanted the day to be commemorated because her own mother had expressed such a desire. It, however, three years after her mother’s death. Now it is a yearly event in almost 40 countries including the USA.
(The author is in-charge Principal Abhedananda Home, Higher Secondary Institution for Specially-abled children, Solina, Rambagh. Ideas are personal.)